Black and white. What happened to gray?

We all at sometime fall mindlessly into black and white thinking.  It makes us feel better, more secure, but it is also hugely blinding.  This is good.  This is bad.  This is right.  That is wrong.  We are strong.  They are weak.  We are smart, they are not.  She's a peach. He's a pain.  I'm a wreck. They are nuts.  He'll never grow out of it.  She's so insensitive.  I'll never be able to do this.  It's unstoppable.

All of these statements are thoughts...
 and they tend to be limiting, even if they are partly true.  Because for the most part, things in the real world are only true to a degree, Yes 'A' degree! There is no such thing as a tall person.  One is only tall to a degree.  No such thing as a smart person.  One is only smart to a degree.  But when we fall into such thinking, to be rigid, confining, and inevitabley, at least partly wrong.

Apples can be red, green, or yellow.  But if you look closely, they are only red, or green, or yellow to a degree.  Sometime there are bigger or smaller splotches or specks of the other colors mixed in.  So to come to our senses, perhaps we need to develop and learn to trust our ability to see beneath the surface of appearance to the reality. In reality there is an infinite shade of gray between all-white and all-black, all-good or all-bad.

What's this all about you ask?  I have found that people make judgements about why someone has cancer.  They need to find a reason why you have cancer because it means that they won't get it.  And thats OK.  I've done it myself when I've heard of others with cancer.  Somehow it makes you feel better that someone 'did' something to get cancer.  They worked too hard. They had too much stress in their life.  They didn't feed themselves right.  Because to actually think that there is no rhyme or reason for this disease is just thinking too far out of the box.  There MUST be a reason.  Right now no one really knows, because if they did there would be a cure.  A cure is coming, you can feel it.  All the new innovative therapies that are coming out are mind boggling. 

In the next few years the changes in the cancer treatment protocols will be amazing.  We all need to believe that and you've heard the saying...believe it and it will happen.  So believe it! For your friends, for your family, for all those who are fighting this disease...BELIEVE in that 'one' cure for everyone.

signed 'one' purple ladybug searching for the grays in life.  There's way too much black and white out there already.